Reading has always been one of my favorite things to do. When I graduated college, I couldn’t read for pleasure for a while. College stole my joy for reading because I had to read so much unenjoyable material that I wasn’t interested in. Recently, I’ve gotten back into enjoying reading because I’m starting to practice self-awareness. I’m starting to pay close attention to myself, my actions, my likes and dislikes, and just overall my feelings, motives and desires.
Practicing self-awareness has influenced me to read more material to help me become more mindful has led me to the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book has been a true eye opener on how to communicate using love. I highly recommend it if you want to become a better communicator. It talks mainly about communicating love in marriages, but I believe this book is so universal and can work with any kind of relationship.
What this book taught me is that usually people speak their love language by speaking to people how they want to be loved, showing people how they want to be loved, or they’ll do something indicating how they want to be love. This is also how the wrong love language get spoken because not everyone speaks the same love language. People just have to listen to how the other person is communicating.
The five love languages consist of words of affirmations, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. I won’t go too much into detail about what each of them mean, but you can google the meaning of them too find out your love language. What I love about this book is I’m listening more to what people are saying, so I have a better understanding on how to support them.
My primary love language is quality time. Quality time means spending time together while being present and giving your full undivided attention. Turn off the televisions and put the phones away and be present. It truly annoys me when I don’t get some real quality time with whomever I’m with. Whether it’s my significant other, mother, father, sister, brother, friends etc. I love quality conversation, going for walks and talking about our days or weeks, working out together, or just anything spent together that we both want to go., going for walks and talking about our days or weeks, working out together, or just anything spent together that we both want to go., going for walks and talking about our days or weeks, going for walks and talking about our days or weeks, working out together, or just anything spent together that we both want to do. Love really is time for me.